Spend Out

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When I read The Happiness Project, one thing that stayed with me most was the part where Gretchen Rubin talks about “spending out”. She confesses to having a hard time using brand new things for the first time (not wanting to ruin their “pristine glory”) and tells a personal story about a bottle of perfume that sat on her grandmother’s dresser for as long as she remembered. The bottle was full when her grandmother died, most likely because her grandmother was saving it for a special occasion.

I’m a total saver. In some ways, it’s a good thing. My savings paid for our wedding and the down payment on our apartment. But in many other ways, my saving is just crazy. I save my “good outfits” (just in case some fun, unexpected plans come up) instead of wearing them to work or to run errands. I save gift cards for the perfect purchase. (We still have three gift cards from our wedding almost seven years ago.) I save the snacks I bring home from Japan. I save the “good” pens for the “right” use, as if I don’t deserve to enjoy writing out my to-do list. I save the good stationery for special occasions (which, for the record, never happen). I save scrapbook supplies because I never think I’m good enough or creative enough to use them the “right” way. I save good art in the closet because I’m afraid to mess up where/how I hang it. I save (as pictured above) fancy paper for juuuust the right project. (Full disclosure: this is just a small portion of my paper collection…the rest is in bins in the closet. Shall I take a break while you call the Hoarders people now?)

I don’t think I’m alone in my saving (hoarding). I often hear to other crafters lament that it’s hard use up their “best” supplies. I know other letter-writing lovers who talk about “hoarding” their vintage postage. I know people who have a hard time making the first pen mark in a brand new journal. I have a set of teacups that my mother received as a wedding gift that sat in its original box in her attic for thirty-nine years before she gave them to me. (A year later, I have yet to use these teacups.)

One of my goals for 2013 (and beyond) is to spend out–to use up or wear out everything I’ve been hoarding. I am going to break out the new dishcloths that my mom gave us for Christmas in 2011. (See how crazy I am?) I am going to use up my fancy papers, even if it means dreaming up reasons to use them. I am going to spend the gift card stash and wear the good clothes until they cannot be worn anymore. I am going to hang up all the art, even if it means patching a few mistakes in the walls. I am going to crack open the journal I made five years ago and fill it up with messy handwriting. I am going to use up ALL of my stationery (I’ve actually been doing well using up this lovely stuff Naoto bought me!) I am going to fearlessly use my typewriter, knowing I can easily buy more ribbon for it, and use my vintage Dymo label-maker knowing I can buy more tape for it. And…I’m going to use up my washi tape–which is by far my most-hoarded supply. I don’t want my craft stash to become the perfume bottle of my existence.

Are you a saver? Is there something you would like to use up this year? Are you a spender? Any words of wisdom for the savers?

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25 thoughts on “Spend Out

  1. naoto says:

    So true! This is precisely why I have had hard time using my brandnew Tiger rice cooker…

  2. cath says:

    I’m not sure I am a saver although there can be items in my closet waiting for me to wear them at the right occasion. Yet things that make me happy, like beautiful paper related stuff, I often keep a while (or longer) just to look at it and feel happy. That can happen with books too by the way.

  3. Donovan says:

    Take note about those gift cards. A lot of them loose money over time if you don’t use them.
    I am always fighting this fight. I am always trying to use everything. It certainly helps if you swear not to buy ANYTHING new until you use all of the other up. I haven’t bought fancy paper in YEARS because I’m still working through my hoard AND because I am not above diving into a trash can.

    • kimberly ah says:

      Thankfully, the ones that we’ve saved are the “never expire” ones…which is just a crutch for me to hang onto them! I SHOULD make myself not buy anything, but working around it (and having enabler coworkers!) makes it so hard! (I have no willpower!)

  4. uncustomary says:

    This was a section of The Happiness Project that really resonated with me as well. My whole life I’ve had a problem with saving things for special occasions. I feel like I’ve broken that barrier with street art. For some reason, now it’s okay to use my special things for people I’ve never met as an artful gesture. I can tell you that using what you have is an awesome feeling. Work at it!!

  5. Alex says:

    I finally finished reading the happiness project and I am here with you. That’s why I started project life to use all my pretty paper and thats why I am trying to use up all my yarn. It’s tough but heck why wait!

    • kimberly ah says:

      Yay! I’m annoyed at myself for buying the PL kit (the Seafoam was so tempting though!) because you CAN use so much of your own stuff (and just use the PL pockets). I can’t wait to see your PL–I’m deciding if I’ll share on the blog or just Instagram…

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  10. juliamonroe says:

    What a great post! I can identify so much with this. It took me years till I could afford jewelry supplies. So over a couple years, I built up an impressive collection of gorgeous beads. But I have used very little of that beautiful stash, because I’m afraid of getting to the end and having none all over again. I’m working at making my “joy of using and giving away” greater than my “fear of none”. I love your blog, by the way. I sent the link to my daughter in Tokyo and now we both follow you. We’re foodies and love stationary and all things paper so your blog is such a treat. Thanks for this post!

    • kimberly ah says:

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment Julia! It’s so much easier to talk about spending out rather than doing it…I’m still working at letting go of things, I think it will be a goal I continue to work on in 2014.

      I’d love to hear about your daughter’s experience in Tokyo! It’s such a different culture and I find something new to marvel every time I visit!

      🙂

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  13. Rebecca says:

    Oh my gosh! I’ve written about this exact thing before! I buy supplies and save them for the “perfect” project. I have so many amazing craft supplies sitting around just begging to be used. You’ve given me the push I need to get on it!

    • kimberly ah says:

      I failed miserably at spending out last year, but I have a strategy this year (that I’ll try and hopefully blog about). The saddest part is when you grow bored with something that excited you in the first place because you were waiting for the “just right” project to use it in.

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